Most of us want to be the best person we can be
Right? We all want to be remembered as being kind/generous/successful people but in the quest for this achievement we can lose sight of what truly defines us. We allow ourselves to become focused on circumstances that we believe to be a crucial part of who are when in fact they are only the stepping stone to being that person. We are always changing as people through the experiences we have but we can't benefit from these lessons if we are unable to see past our situation.

Have you any thoughts on this? Is there anything in your life that you refuse to let define you??
24 Comments
Helen
7 years agoYes to all of these! I refuse to let some parts of my past define me, they're just that...in the past :)
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThanks Cevs! I think we got our priorities right :) xx
Caoimhe
7 years agoI love this Al, brings me back to the basics that keep us happy :) xx
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThanks Bernie!
Bernie Corrigan
7 years agoAlex excellent reading.
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoYou're so right Rhian and it's hard to remember that these days when we're surrounded by ads and social media telling us otherwise! x
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoJust need to hire you as my PR Cat! xx
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoI know I see age stopping people from doing things that could make them happy all the time! I hope to never get caught in that trap and to always try and be brave enough to do what makes me happy x
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoI think that's such a common worry among Mums Laura so I know you're not the only one. You just have to remember to make time for yourself and do things that make you feel like you again. Thanks so much for reading x
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThank you so much!
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThese are such great thoughts Michelle! And I'm relieved to hear the thirties are a good decade! Our twenties can be a little chaotic so I'm almost looking forward to being a bit more mellow!
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoIt's easy to forget all of this when we're caught up in the daily rhythms of things but I'm going to make a effort to not lose sight of the most important moments. Thanks so much for the almost birthday wish! Another few weeks of being 28 and I'll be on the countdown to 30!
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThanks Hilary! Although I think you've my sister and mine's names mixed up! Haha happens all the time!
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoThanks Laura! x
Alex Donnelly
7 years agoIt's silly how we can live in our own heads sometimes!
Rhian Westbury
7 years agoI totally agree with these, I think we spend too much time letting things define us rather than whats inside x
Cat
7 years agoJust love the bits about what defines you (love of friends,family, experiences, travel) and how friendships nowadays are now about quality not quantity!! Such wonderfully insightful writing as always Alex- need to see you publish this ASAP x
Zena'S Suitcase
7 years agoI really liked this. Age certainly shouldn't define you, and it's sad to watch people become how old they are. Mistakes is also something we should all let go of
Musings Mummy...Zzz...
7 years agoVery thought provoking. I think being a mum defines me often to the exclusion of all else and I feel like I have lost the real me :(
London Mumma
7 years agoA beautiful post and well written about defining us.
Michelle Kellogg
7 years agoI just turned 40 last month and definitely went through a sort of crisis that I had to think through because I still remember turning 30 and how I felt about being in my thirties. By the way, for most of us our 30's are the best! Just a little heads up lol. Anyway, I wrote about what turning 40 meant to me and even though I was definitely worried and a bit terrified about it, I got over it and realized that the next ten years are just another great adventure that I will have of learning, growing, and becoming an even better version of myself. Happy Birthday!!!
Hilary Halliday
7 years agoLoved this piece Shannon. Ticked every box. Especially the Age box.
Laura
7 years agoAnother great blog Alex xxx
Sarah Too
7 years agoAll to easy to get caught up in most of not all of those things.